is she cheating on me?

[Evenflow]

ok for about 4 weeks i had football non stop (hell month) full of conditioning and i couldnt spend time with her....so for the past 2 weeks she hasnt been wanting to do anything...so last weeked she said she was staying at her friend michelles house and i see michelle at the mall without my gf and michelle says she wasnt with her.... we've been goin out for 5 years and im just wondering wat do u guys think?

[Hootnnuts]

she was just with her friend at the mall... i dont think shes cheating on u.

[Serenity]

ok for about 4 weeks i had football non stop (hell month) full of conditioning and i couldnt spend time with her....so for the past 2 weeks she hasnt been wanting to do anything...so last weeked she said she was staying at her friend michelles house and i see michelle at the mall without my gf and michelle says she wasnt with her.... we've been goin out for 5 years and im just wondering wat do u guys think?[/b]
It's possible that she is cheating on you. Don't jump to conclusions though. If she is, she will show NUMEROUS signs of it.

Maybe there are two Michelle's. I don't know, but it is possibly that she is. Just wait, and if there are some signs of it, then dump her.

[Hootnnuts]

going out for five years it will be hard to dump her.

[+mw.Sourcery]

*sigh* boys, so clueless to the deviations of a woman.

No proof she is cheating on you BUT lying about where she is? Definitely something wrong in your relationship. No matter what you should definitely bust her on her lying. Whatever you do...dont give her an ultimatum. Say something like "I know i have'nt been there for you this past month because of football but i am here now and if you want to be my girlfriend thats great but if you're just not feeling us anymore please just tell me."

If you dont sound crazy and if you dont start crying she will probably tell the truth.

If not...dump that bitch for lying. You play football for gods sake...should'nt be that hard to get a girlfriend lol

[Serenity]

Hmm..
It might be me, Becca, but I think that the reason we guys are so clueless is because you ladies are so gawrsh darn complex. X_x

Nothing pleases you...
XD

Becca summed it all up, dude. :P

[Hootnnuts]

thats a pretty good way to handle it becca :D

[Evenflow]

thnks for ur help im gunna call her in the morning and catch her on the lie

[Hootnnuts]

dont break up with her on the phone. talk to her in person. even if u arent planning on breaking up with her u never know she might come up and say she has been cheating. but dont do it on the phone. big no no.

[Serenity]

Yeah dude.

If you do it over the phone, I will PERSONALLY find out where you live and kick you in the balls.

That is wrong on SO many levels.

It's bad to ask her out on the phone or the net, but it is understandable.

Breaking up is just being a pussy. =|

[+mw.Sourcery]

lol ya definitely dont do it over the phone. We can think up good lies over the phone if you cant see our face lol do it in person..only way to go.

[Evenflow]

ok so phone is out...uhhh...breakfeast?

ESIT: im not gunna break up with her this is to talk about the mall thing

[Hootnnuts]

ya i know but talking to a girlfriend like that isnt a good phone discussion. i would invite her to my house and talk to her. but breakfast is good also.

[+mw.Sourcery]

do it all at once and in person...trust me.

[lucy]

I think you need to have a bit more faith in your girl.
If she were innocent, I think she'd be a bit offended that you're asking for advice on a forum.

[Evenflow]

ok i talked to her about the mall thing and we worked it out she was really with her friend who was getting a abortion..... now i feel like a total ass but she has been spending time with her friend before the abortion and thats y she was blowing me off....that sucks i feel really bad =( =( =(

[murch]

wow that sucks i bet you do feel bad :P

but dont, you didnt know and you had every right to worry, no big deal though you guys back to normal now?

[Evenflow]

yeah where back to normal...it helped our relationship though..........where gunna tell the truth and she laughed at how it looked in my eyes =)

[Flow]

i wouldnt say he is...imo
afer 5 years..i dont think this is a sign of that